A lady, in India, as soon as she is 18, her parents have reached a milestone - It's finally time!!
No, not for her to go to college and graduate with an education that can uplift the family and the society - no, no - It's finally time for her to get married and so parents of the lady; search for a Groom. "A suitable boy".
Dreams crushed, Feelings unresolved, made to walk a path she never even thought of in her daydreams or night tales or wishes when a shooting star passes by...
A suitable boy huh...?
Who is the ideal suitable boy? Someone like Ramachandra Dasharat? Someone like Krishna Vasudev? Someone like Majnu? Someone like Romeo? Someone like Ranjha?
Or someone, like Shiva?
Someone who believes in women and equality.
Someone who showed the world an example of treating their wives just right.
Gauri was a homemaker, and she made Shiva, a wanderer, a reluctant man, into a family man - for someone who preached on unattachment all his life and to settle down with family and kids - I admire the irony.
Marriage does things to people huh?
He was worth the wait to Parvathy and settling down with Shakthi was one of the best things he'd done although a banjara.
My ideal man?
I don't know.
I need a friend - my best friend, my lifeline - although after Genius awakening me to realize that best friends are just nothing more than facades and masks we have over our faces to have more rights over someones' life - we do care about them deeply but isn't it true that we also subtly have this power to emotionally manipulate them according to what we believe/feel/think is right for them. Just because we've known them and we've had intimate/close moments of joy, sorrow, ups and downs together...
My ideal guy would probably be a wife!
A wife = who is not a guy or a girl - a responsibility taken by anyone - a gender-neutral job.
A wife = who'd care for me as much as I care for them
A wife = who respects me as much as I respect them
A wife = a gender-neutral job profile, to give care and love and just receive back then...
A wife = the feminine nurturer, nourisher and care taker
A wife = gives a space for the masculine to be vulnerable
A wife = compliments their partner in characteristics and traits
A wife = someone who can balance the yin - yang energy of their partner
A shiva to the parvathi, a lakshmi to vishnu, a dattatreya to anasuya, a devayani to karthikeya.
a ranjha to heer, a laila to majnu...
I can merely only give examples... but if you find a person who fits your unmade checklist of a partner and you find everything you've been looking for when you weren't really looking or were about to give up... and if you believe you cannot live another day without them...
that's your person, your zing. don't let them go.
25. Sept. 2024
14.50 IST
